We won’t move to our new house in Winchester for another week—but I’ve already written my first grumpy message to the editor of the local flagship newspaper. Lord help me. I read my soon-to-be-hometown paper for the first time and, lo and behold, 4 of the 5 editorial pieces are slamming gay people. Are you kidding me? If this isn’t a fluke, I predict I’ll be the offline version of “angry article comment writing guy” in no time. Kyle will have to hide my quill and ink lest I send old-fashioned newspaper rants every day.
Not until opening that editorial page did I realize how insulated I have been since high school (and coming out)–living in reliable, friendly places for social liberals–Champaign, Chicago, DC, Reston. Winchester, VA is much more like my hometown of Bradley, IL…except with a slightly more conservative bite. I’m not complaining, local politics are much more fun when there is real disagreement. I’m looking forward to it.
I only write this post for two reasons: (1) To have a place to post this, because I’m sure the newspaper won’t touch it; (2) To remind those interested that we are nearing VERY important Supreme Court arguments that will decide the gay rights issue once and for all (April 28th). Fingers crossed.
Anyway, what I sent the honorable Adrian O’Connor, editorial chief of the venerable Winchester Star:
Is Winchester welcoming of all couples? On a recent editorial page (Friday, April 3rd), four of the five pieces directly or indirectly referenced same-sex couples as bullies, fanatical activists, or downright threats to society.
One piece in particular (“For all the re-definition…) sought to warn the community of looming disaster if the United State Supreme Court upholds lower court rulings that would allow my fiance and I to marry. We are a gay couple and are exciting about moving to the area after buying a home in the Winchester Historic District. The editorial noted that our marriage would not be “normal” because our “chosen sexual behavior isn’t natural.” It went on to suggest that our marriage must be stopped for the sake of the children and grandchildren of Winchester. Really? I would assume, considering that the lives of children are apparently threatened if gay couples marry, that the author would much prefer if my fiance and I did not move into the area at all.
The editorial argues that gay couples should not be given the right to marry because “the differences in motives, purposes, and practices that define homosexual and heterosexual unions are so great that the English language screams for definitive specificity.” By writing that sentence, I can only assume that the author does not actually know any gay couples.
To allay our future neighbors’ fears, we’d like to share the “motives, purposes, and practices that define our homosexual union.” We are getting married as a lifelong commitment…
- To Provide one another with unerring emotional support during life’s inevitable challenges.
- To Have a constant companion to share in life’s joys and triumphs.
- To Build and care for a home, sprucing up our small corner of the world.
- To Act as a strong unit to give back to our community in volunteer work, tax dollars, and participation in local organizations.
- To Protect each of us individually from financial setbacks or career challenges.
- To Blend our collective families, providing a larger net of trusted friends and confidants.
- To Challenge each other to grow beyond our own interests and explore new ideas, hobbies, and adventures.
- To Push one another to pursue our real passions, regardless of our fears or worries
- To Provide love, support, and care for a child who needs a safe and stable home.
- To Ensure care, aid, and support to one another as we age, become disabled, and need to adapt in the twilight of life.
- To Be a final smiling face one as we transition from this life to whatever lies beyond.
Sexual orientation has zero bearing on the motives, purposes, and practices of two individuals spending their lives together. Allowing my fiance and I to share in the benefits and obligations of marriage will not only benefit us personally, it will also make our new Winchester community stronger.