I consider myself a pretty optimistic fellow. I like to smile. Always look on the bright side. The power of positive thinking. That’s how I try to operate.
But, I’m learning that what works for me may not work for others. It actually has the potential to harm.
By trying to get others to shake off their worries, fears, or concerns, I run the risk of making them feel guilty for NOT being able to do it. The classic ‘blame the victim’ process.
I still very much believe in optimism and the power that thought has on action. However, when giving advice I need to be careful not to trivialize one’s worries, fears, and concerns to the point that I make it seem like they do not exist at all.
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